Use a note pad and pen to jot down notes.

Are you committed to the marriage?

Are you willing to try new things that might improve the relationship?

Are you committed to being honest with each other?

What are things you value most in others? Write them down.

What do you need most from your partner?

In behavior terms, what three things would you most like from your partner?

In behavior terms, what three things would you most like to see changed in your partner?

What do you need most from your partner?

How might this be best expressed in behavior terms?

State in behavior terms what you would like to have your partner do for you? How often, when, be specific.

Describe the feelings associated with this behavior.

How do you want to feel in your marriage? What makes you most often feel this way?

Can you commit to one, two or three things a week in altering behaviors or language that would contribute to what your partner states is important?

Express how you feel when you hear your partner say this?

Feeling exercise:

Hold hands and with hands and facial expressions communicate information.

Use only face to communicate information.

Use only eyes to communicate information.

Use only hands to communicate information.

Use only posture, facing away from person.

Sadness, depression, anger, rigidity, tenderness, kindness, understanding, love, lust/desire, empathy, eagerness, loyalty, fidelity, care, coldness, warmth